5. Staying Off Social Media and No Contact
When a relationship ends, it’s hard to stop looking at your ex’s online life. Studies by Tara Marshall show that watching an ex on social media stops you from growing and keeps the hurt alive. Instead, getting off social tracking gives your mind room to heal.
Many find that cutting off contact—blocking or not following their ex—helps them not reach out or think of sad times. A survey showed that 85% of blocked people were unblocked later, proving these online limits aren’t forever, but are key for you to get better. These limits aren’t about being small; they are to save your energy and look after yourself.
4. Letting Out Feelings Through Writing and Art
Breakups let out strong feelings—sadness, anger, confusion—that can be too much. Rather than keeping them inside or letting them out in hurtful ways, using writing or art can help. Studies say that writing down your feelings, like in a journal or letters you don’t send, helps deal with hard thoughts and heals your emotions.
Even if you’re not artsy, drawing, painting, or making music can put your pain out there and help you see things in a new way. A writer said that letting herself cry, making playlists, and writing poems helped her go through her grief, not just avoid it.
3. Bringing In Good Times and Finding Yourself
Healing isn’t just about less pain—it’s about looking for joy and finding out who you are without your ex. Studies in positive psychology say making new, fun times can lessen stress and help you heal faster. This might be getting back with old friends, going back to a hobby you lost, or taking a trip alone.
After a breakup, you’ve got more time and freedom for yourself. Use this chance to find out what makes you happy on your own. Finding your real self not only helps you move on but also sets you up for growth and healthier future relationships.
2. Using Active Acceptance and Being Kind to Yourself
Acceptance is powerful, but make sure it’s active acceptance, not just giving up. Active acceptance means seeing your feelings and the breakup’s reality, but still moving ahead with hope. This method is known to improve mental health and personal growth.
Also, being kind to yourself is key. It’s easy to blame yourself, but being gentle helps fight off bad thoughts like “I’m not lovable” or “I’ll never find anyone else.” Dr. Kristin Neff’s work shows that treating yourself gently in hard times doesn’t just comfort you—it changes you.
1. Building the Right Support Circle
Most of all, the best way to heal after a breakup is to have the right support around you. Emotional help from friends and family—who hear you out, know your worth, and share a laugh—helps make you strong and grow. It’s not about others fixing things for you but about having safe spots to talk and heal. If it’s hard to ask for help, remember asking shows strength, not weakness.
Many also get help from a therapist, who can guide you and clear up your thoughts on your relationship and needs. Whether it’s a late call with a friend or regular talks with a therapist, relying on people who care makes a huge difference in healing.