If you’ve ever felt that your marriage lost its shine, know you’re not the only one. Life gets full—with jobs, kids, worry, and daily tasks, feeling close can start to slip away. But here’s the good thing: it’s never too late to come back together. There are simple, sure steps to get back the warmth you miss. Here are 14 top ways, from those often skipped to the most key.
14. Do more things together
Spending time on things you both love can make you feel like a team again. It could be dance, hikes, a new food, or a puzzle. Doing things together brings back fun and closeness—often lost in daily chores.
13. Talk about sex
Just asking your partner what they dream of can open new closeness. Trying new things or fun ideas in your sex life can break the same old and remind you both that thrill and new finds still fit in your bond.
12. Build sexy excitement
A fun look, a teasing text, or a bit of play can do so much. Looking ahead to being together builds up thrill and makes your time together stand out and stick.
11. Try new kinds of sex
If sex feels too much the same, shake it up. Be soft and loving one time, playful or quick another. Mixing it up keeps it fun and stops it from just being routine.
10. Sleep at the same time
This simple step lets you talk, hug, or just be near. Even if it’s just lying close, it helps you feel together.
9. Spend better time together
You don’t need a big date night to feel close. Cooking, walking, or talking without phones can be enough. Making time for just you two, free from distractions, grows closeness in simple moments.
8. Make sex a must
With so much going on, it’s easy to let sex slip. But making an effort shows you care about your bond. Plan a loving night or make a little moment for closeness, and it counts.
7. Share feelings during sex
Sex isn’t just physical—it’s a time to talk about desires, feelings, or fears. Sharing more makes it deep and full.
6. Don’t skip the small touches
Hand-holding, hugs, snuggles—these little acts are strong. They trigger happy chemicals that make you feel close and safe. A simple, loving touch stays strong in keeping you connected.
5. Show you see each other
Saying you value them or just a thank you for small things can mean a lot. Feeling seen boosts openness in both feelings and touch.
4. Keep daily stress out of your close spaces
Try not to mix daily tension with your intimate times. Your place for closeness should be about love, not bills or plans. Keeping it just for you two makes it special.
3. Change how you start sex
If it’s always one of you starting, switch it up. Be bold, try new ways. Little shifts like this keep the fire alive and make both feel wanted.
2. Listen better
Listening—hearing them—can flip things. When you truly listen and don’t rush to fix things, they feel loved and understood. That kind of bond is the base for deeper closeness.
1. Touch more
Touch tops the list: a back rub, a hand on the arm, a long hug—these simple things can slowly bring back the spark. Touch often fades when busy, but it’s a fast, strong way to come together.
Fixing closeness in a marriage isn’t about quick fixes or big shows. It’s about little, steady acts that say, “I’m here. I still pick you.” Whether through talks, new fun, or calm times, each try brings you closer—and keeps that bond alive.