Have you ever felt that there is someone in your social group who is not as real as they look to be? Maybe you find yourself after the meetings feeling exhausted, doubting yourself, or just annoyed. You’re not the only one. The people around us have a great impact on our happiness, confidence, and even on the way we feel about ourselves. So, how to recognize fakes – and what to do with them? Let’s break down the biggest signs of pseudo people from the most hidden to the most obvious ones, and then have a look at the best ways to protect your peace.
8. Bad Friend
Fake individuals are plain bad friends. They won’t hear you, they’re not around when you need them, and somehow, every topic is always about them. If you catch yourself avoiding passing on good or bad news because you know it will get hijacked, or if your “friend” is constantly canceling at the last minute, then you’re probably dealing with someone who’s not on your side. As quoted by Stephanie Azri, “It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too.”
7. Sarcasm and Cynicism
Behind that constant smile, insincere individuals usually conceal resentment, jealousy, or wrath. Their defense mechanisms are cynicism and sarcasm. They may employ them to lift themselves or to tear other people down, maintaining the façade of being positive or supportive along the way.
6. People Pleaser
Ever come across someone who keeps saying yes to everything, only to renege later with some weak excuse? Phony people need approval and will do whatever it takes to make everyone happy—at least on the surface. But their invitations are usually hollow, and you may end up being strung along more times than you can count.
5. Love Attention
If you’re constantly being interrupted or overshadowed by someone who always needs the spotlight, you’re probably dealing with a fake person. The focus is always on them, no matter the topic, and your achievements or struggles are quickly brushed aside.
4. Unrealistic Perceptions
Deceptive individuals tend to portray something about themselves or the world that simply doesn’t ring true. It might be over-inflated accomplishments, a consumerist show, or fabricated happiness. There tends to be some kind of split between what they portray and reality. Often, it’s a means to cover over pain or insecurity that runs deeper.
3. Zero Self-Reflection
Growth demands the capacity to embrace criticism and acknowledge errors. Phony people hardly ever apologize, and when they do, it’s preceded by a “but.” They are not deep enough for sincere self-reflection, which makes it almost impossible for them to grow or develop.
2. Muddy in Communicating Emotions
Attempting to have an honest, heartfelt discussion with an artificial being? Good luck. They can’t even accurately portray real emotions since they don’t desire to show their real selves. That makes a true connection almost out of the question.
1. Full of Themselves
At the center of it all, fake people are all about themselves. They love to brag, gather proof of their “greatness,” and ensure others are aware of how wonderful they are. The issue? Much of it is all for appearances’ sake, and being around them can make you feel small or angry.
Don’t forget, you should be with those who raise you, not pull you down. To put it in the words of Stephanie Azri, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely.” Carefully choose your tribe—your well-being hangs in the balance.