Marriage is more than just splitting bills, living together, or sharing a last name—it’s about building a deep bond that lasts.
If your bond feels more like a work deal than a close tie, it might be time to bring back habits that boost closeness, trust, and joy in your life together. These seven tips—from real pairs and expert views—can help you feel close again and keep your marriage strong.
7. Don’t Be Scared to Ask for Help
Even strong ties hit rough times. Many pairs who’ve been together for years say that therapy—either alone or with their partner—helps a lot during tough times. They think being open with yourself and your mate is key, as is having friends who care about ties.
Talking to a counselor, opening up to a good friend, or finding help in a faith group can give you both insight and growth through hard patches.
6. Keep Fun in the Bond
When life gets heavy, fun often fades first. But pairs who laugh, try new things, and play often feel closer and more alive. Whether it’s trying new stuff, setting up regular date nights, or doing silly things like making a pillow fort, finding time for fun can bring back lightness and closeness. A tip? Make a “fun list” together so you have ideas ready when things seem dull.
5. Show You Care Every Day
Kind words mean a lot. Pausing to praise your mate or thank them for small things—like making dinner or just being there—can lift your bond. Experts say these thanks make your other half feel seen, valued, and loved. Simple words like “I love how you did that” or “Thanks for making me smile today” are enough.
4. Go for Touches That Aren’t Just Sexual
Being close helps pairs feel safe and linked, but it doesn’t always lead to sex. A quick hug, holding hands, a kiss on the cheek—these little acts build warmth and love with no pressure. Many drift apart when stressed, or when closeness feels too forced. Find your way with gentle, kind, and steady touches.
3. Watch Out for Bad Thoughts
Sometimes, our minds stick to wrong ideas like “They don’t care,” “I’m always trying,” or “This won’t change.” These thoughts can twist how you see things and stir up bad feelings. Try to spot these before reacting. Rather than think the worst, ask questions or see things from their side. This helps you avoid fights and understand better, instead of getting upset.
2. Be Honest and Listen
Open, kind talk is key to any strong marriage. Avoid being unclear or cold. Say what you mean nicely. And when they talk, really listen, not just wait to talk back. Show you’ve heard them, even if you don’t agree. Feeling heard can deeply build trust and closeness.
1. Make Time to Connect Every Day
The best pairs make sure to reconnect even when busy. Maybe it’s a chat before sleep, a walk after dinner, or coffee on the weekend. These moments don’t need to be big—just regular. Use this time to really talk about what’s important and how you both feel. It’s in these daily habits that you build real closeness.
Marriage isn’t about being perfect or never fighting—it’s about choosing to stay linked, even when tough. These small, daily habits might seem simple, but they are the base of a strong bond. With some plans, interest, and kindness, you can make a bond that not only lasts but also thrives.