Dating an only child is somewhat akin to exploring a sphere where one is independent yet intense, and familial relationships go quite a long way. Perhaps you have tried to figure out why your partner is so self-aware and why his parents’ views seem to carry so much weight. You’re certainly not the only one. The 10 most uncovering facts about loving an only child will help you to become familiar with the peculiarities, the power, and the unexpected aspects of this different kind of relationship.
10. Master cuddlers and fond of physical contact
Attachment theory teaches us that only children who are raised with abundant touch as children tend to yearn for physical touch as adults. Back scratches, spooning, and morning cuddles are their love language.
9. They like partners who come from larger families
Balance is important. Some only children fear that dating another only child would mean their future children would never have aunts or uncles. They tend to look for partners from larger families to build a more robust family structure.
8. Parental bonds run deep—and their opinion matters
For many only children, parents are best friends, mentors, and confidantes. Their approval can make or break a relationship, and daily check-ins are common. If you’re dating an only child, expect their parents to be part of the package.
7. They need to feel adored
Being the focal point of attention growing up, single children bask in validation. They’re accustomed to compliments and might require frequent reminders about how great they are. In return, they will give back the compliment as well.
6. It’s hard to ask for help
Self-sufficiency is a characteristic of single children. From putting together furniture to solving life’s problems, they tend to want to do it all by themselves—even if assistance is provided. It takes time to learn to accept help.
5. Being decisive and independent comes naturally
Since they don’t have siblings to seek advice from, only children have extensive experience in decision-making. From dinner to dwellings, they’re apt to decide quickly and expect their partner to follow along.
4. Thin-skinned when it comes to criticism and conflict
Without the teasing and rough-and-tumble play of sibling life, only children are likely to be more sensitive to criticism. Confrontation can be daunting, and they may require extra space or reassurance in the midst of conflict.
3. Doting and starved of closeness
Having been given their parents’ undivided attention, only children tend to expect the same level of attention from their partners. They enjoy being noticed and listened to, and can greatly value the company a partner offers.
2. Sporadic jealousy can strike
Being the only priority during childhood means that only children aren’t accustomed to sharing the limelight. When their partner is getting attention or is taking time somewhere else, jealousy may sometimes emerge.
1. Stereotypes and myths don’t tell the whole story
The concept of “only-child syndrome”—narcissism, loneliness, lack of ability to share—is mostly a fiction. According to Thriveworks, there are no meaningful personality differences found between only children and children with siblings. Parenting and personal experiences significantly influence more than the size of the family. Dating an only child involves accepting their independence, tolerating their idiosyncrasies, and valuing the depth of their loyalty and affection. And with good communication and a bit of understanding, these can be as rich and rewarding as any, as often more so.