Following are some general tips that may help you and your partner have a positive and enjoyable first-time intimacy experience:


  • Talk openly and honestly with your partner about your expectations, desires, and any concerns you may have. This will help you both feel comfortable and safe, and it can help you to understand each other’s needs.
  • Consent is crucial. Make sure you and your partner are both enthusiastically consenting to all aspects of the experience.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions or say no if something doesn’t feel right.


  • Educate yourself about sex and intimacy. There are many resources available to help you learn more about the topic, such as books, websites, and sex educators.
  • Make sure you have access to protection. This can help prevent unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
  • Create a comfortable and safe environment. This could include lighting candles, putting on music, or using aromatherapy.

During the experience:

  • Focus on pleasure and enjoyment. This is about both of you feeling good.
  • Be present in the moment. Don’t worry about what you think you should be doing or how you think you should look.
  • Be gentle and patient with yourself and your partner. This is a new experience for both of you.
  • Don’t be afraid to experiment and try different things. Find what works best for you and your partner.

Additionally, here are some specific things you can do to enhance the experience:

  • Set the mood with music, candles, or aromatherapy.
  • Take a warm bath or shower together.
  • Give each other massages.
  • Spend time kissing and cuddling.
  • Use toys or props to add variety.

Most importantly, remember to relax, have fun, and enjoy yourself! The most important thing is that you and your partner are both comfortable and happy.


  • Prioritize consent: Both you and your partner should feel comfortable and enthusiastic about everything you’re doing. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Don’t pressure yourself or your partner.
  • Communicate openly and honestly: Talk about your expectations, fears, and desires. Ask questions and listen to your partner’s responses.
  • Focus on pleasure and connection: Intimacy is about more than just physical sensations. Take time to build emotional intimacy and enjoy each other’s company.
  • Go at your own pace: Don’t feel pressured to rush into anything you’re not ready for. Take things one step at a time and explore your comfort levels together.
  • Use protection: Protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancy. Talk to your doctor about the best birth control options for you.
  • Respect your own boundaries and those of your partner: If something feels uncomfortable or wrong, say so immediately. You have the right to say no to anything you don’t want to do.
  • Be patient and understanding: This is a new experience for both of you. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you learn what feels good.


  • Compare yourself to others: Everyone’s experience with intimacy is different. Don’t try to live up to someone else’s expectations.
  • Focus on performance: The goal is to enjoy yourselves, not to perform perfectly.
  • Feel pressured to drink or use drugs: Alcohol and drugs can impair your judgment and decision-making.
  • Be afraid to ask for help: If you have any questions or concerns, talk to a trusted adult or healthcare provider.
  • Rush into anything you’re not ready for: Take things slow and only do what feels right for you.
  • Ignore your intuition: If something feels off, trust your gut and stop.
  • Put yourself or your partner at risk: Use protection and respect each other’s boundaries.

Here are some additional resources that you may find helpful:

  • Planned Parenthood:
  • Scarleteen:
  • The Trevor Project:

Remember, your first intimate experience should be something you look back on fondly. Make sure you’re in a safe, supportive environment and that you’re with someone you trust. Enjoy the journey!

If you have any specific concerns or questions about your first time, it is always best to talk to a qualified healthcare professional or sex therapist. They can provide you with personalized advice and support.

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